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In our research, 37 percent of the children described their parents as grumpy at the end of the workday. “When my dad’s had a hard day, he takes his anger out on my brother and me,” said Sandy, 12. “He’ll yell at us for the littlest thing, like talking too loud on the phone”. Your child needs comfort and attention. Like you, he may have had a bad day, and he may need to talk. If you focus completely on your own feeling, he will feel cheated. Take time to unwind before plunging into the role of mom or dad. A shower, a glass of wine, a nap, some exercise – the specific activity is not important. What is important is that you restore yourself so you can enjoy your child’s company. The children we interviewed know what they want to talk about – their feelings. They especially want to tell their parents when they’re afraid. Many children said parents brush aside all sensitive subjects. No child should be burdened by fear or worry because a parent finds a subject uncomfortable. Listening to your youngsters and answering their questions can make an enormous difference to their emotional security. The time you spend with your children in the morning sets the tone for the day. Kim, 11, says, “My house is a zoo in the morning. Everyone is rushing around. My parents are always screaming that they’re going to be late. They bark out orders – “Make your bed! Hurry up and eat breakfast!” It’s a lousy way to start the day.” When parents speak harshly before school, angry words echo throughout the day and can affect a child’s schoolwork and behavior. Ask yourself how often you’re home during the week to have dinner with your kids, check homework assignments or just spend a pleasurable evening as a family. If you’re usually out more than one evening during the week, you’re absent for what seems to a child to be a very long time.
If you focus completely on your own feeling, he will feel cheated. (this utterance represents a combined tune consisting of 2 adjacent intonation groups, which are in the subordinative relations, which means that the subordinate part is semantically and grammatically incomplete without the continuation. This is an example of preposed subordination, which presoposes that we should use the Low Rising tone to show that there is a continuation which follows. The speaker’s attitude is neutral, as it’s just a straightforward statement. )
Make your bed! Hurry up and eat breakfast! ( these utterances are emotionally colored and the speaker’s attitude is rather energetic and enthusiastic, that’s why the High emphatic falling tone together with the scandent head is suitable in this case to show this expressiveness.)
