The Importance of a happy home for every child’s psychological state

Whenever I think about my home, my family, a poem by Carol Fitchett comes to my mind

A Home

Needs:

To be lit by the electricity of caring for all,

To be carpeted by friends from wall to wall.

A few moments of privacy and thoughts of love,

To be heated by the warmth of God above.

To be cleaned of bickering every day,

To be furnished with an understanding way.

To be filled with the aroma of delicate food,

And then happiness will become its mood!

You can’t but agree that such homes are very important for every child. A happy family is the thing that every child needs. Of course there is no magic formula for happiness but some of its aspects are universal. They are freedom, sound health, the sense of belonging, an interesting occupation, a possibility to express yourself. Actually all these things have their beginning in the family. Nothing else but a family can be an emotional centre of people’s life and a transmitter of culture. Such things as mutual respect, understanding, consideration for others, patience, tenderness are important in every family. And such things as hypocrisy, selfishness, rudeness, insincerity should never exist in family relationships. There are a lot of activities that make a family a strong, healthy unit. They are discussing all the family plans together, going on trips together. The members of a friendly family visit theatres, exhibitions and exchange opinions. They share their joys and troubles and help each other in everything.

But if you ask me what the most important thing in molding the child’s personality is, I will definitely say LOVE. But it should be wise love. The thing is that this very love mustn’t spoil the child but must help the child grow away from the mother and father and become fully independent. That’s why children shouldn’t be smothered by their parents and should be given as much responsibility as possible from the early age. They should definitely keep their own room tidy and make their own beds. When they are older they can do the shopping, the washing up and some other work about the house. Wise parents will never fail to complement a child if she/ he does a good job. They always value the children’s viewpoints, invite their opinions and show belief in a child’s abilities.

Of course, bringing up children is not an easy task. Children are not angels. Sometimes they disobey their parents. They break the rules accepted in the family, do forbidden things, do not keep their word or promise and these things cause a lot of trouble. Wise parents will never show anger, especially in arguments. They will never use ‘because I say so’ principle in dealing with a child, but will use practical examples when explaining things and giving advice. The thing is that only by their own example can parents teach their children to be tactful, supportive and tolerant and help them to become good parents in future

For me personally a home is a place where I am always welcome and safe and my soul rests peacefully. It’s a place where I find comfortable atmosphere for work and rest. And if I have problems I can always speak them out and find understanding, support and practical help and advice.